Why do we fall in love? Why do we get attracted towards someone? How can some stay in love for so long and others fleet? Love is the basic human emotion. It can be used as a synonym for affection, enjoyment, sexual attraction, care & concern, loyalty. Attraction and romantic love and are a mystery but how do this work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are two most common theories of attraction which can be contradictory. These are \u2018Opposites Attract’ and ‘Birds of a Feather Flock Together’. These are contradictory theories so they both are right and wrong. Often opposite do attract as we look or admire the qualities or personality traits that we lack in ourselves. This can also be termed as \u2018better half\u2019 or \u2018other half\u2019 theory but almost everyone is attracted towards the attractiveness whether they have opposite qualities or not. You can get attracted to someone even on the first meet without knowing the person. You get attracted towards a person for their physical appearance, their knowledge or their socio economic status. When you are attracted towards a person you want to be with them and once you get that person in your life you start losing the charm or interest in them, gradually. This is opposite in love, Your love for the person get increased as the day passes. In love we accept the complete personality of the person with its good as well bad things while we get attracted to only some qualities of the person, not with the complete personality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You may read: https:\/\/www.mindyog.com\/blog\/nuclear-vs-joint-family\/<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Research suggests that some\nspecific combination of chemical substance such as dopamine, norepinephrine and\nphenethylamine. Later guiding by another two – oxytocin and serotonin.These\nchemicals are responsible for the experiences and behavior that are associated\nwith love in human. <\/p>\n\n\n\n These chemical substance function\nsimilar to amphetamine making us alert excited and wanting to bond. The\nromantic love and attraction are not an emotion they are motivational drive\nwhich are the part of brain reward system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Romantic love is made up of 3\nelements- <\/p>\n\n\n\n Attachment can be defined as a deep and eternal emotional bond between two people and the need to receive care, seeking closeness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Caring is being attentive or valuing other person needs and happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Intimacy is sharing closeness, fondness, and desire with the other person (Zick Rubin).<\/p>\n\n\n\n On the other hand, love can be seen as much intense and much deeper emotion. According to the triangular theory of psychologist Robert Sternberg. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The three components of love are\n\u2013 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Intimacy is an enclosed feeling of connectedness, attachment, closeness, and affection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Passion is enclosed admiration, a drive that connects to both love fantasies and sexual attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Commitment enclosed the decision to stay or to be with another, sharing each other\u2019s strengths and flaws together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Combination of these three\ncomponents give different types of love. If we combine intimacy and commitment\nresult is compassionate love and if mix passion and intimacy the result is\nromantic love. If we combine intimacy passion and commitment the result is\nconsumate love. This type of love is the deepest, strongest and enduring. According\nto Sternberg, this type of love is rare. If we only found intimacy in a person then\nthat will result in liking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another theory to explain love and other emotions were given by psychologist Elaine Hatfield et. al. She explained that there are two types of love \u2013 <\/p>\n\n\n\n